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Speed-dating, sexy talks and safe sex

We kicked off day two at the Atmadeepam Society, Nagpur with the speed-dating icebreaker, where female and male participants had less then two minutes to ask each other questions and then move on to the next participant. After the icebreaker, our first session was called My Body and Me with male and female participants in separate rooms trained by our doctors, Dr. Neha Goyal for women and Dr. Asif Virmani for men. This particular group already has basic understanding of body parts and their function, so our trainers began by showing body models of male and female sex and reproductive organs. The girls knew words like vagina, although they were hearing ‘clitoris’ for the first time. Dr Neha asks, ‘What changes happen in a girl’s body during puberty?’ to which one participant says, ‘Pimples!’ She then shows them the model of the male reproductive organs and gets into the nitty-gritties of sex!

In the other room, the boys are equally amazed when Dr Asif brings out the tactile models of the breasts and male and female reproductive organs. Dr Asif is faced by a barrage of questions from the eager participants — about what semen is and whether a girl can have intercourse while menstruating. Back in the girls’ room, there is absolute silence as Nidhi and Neha Goyal talk about clitoris, intercourse and orgasms. We bust some more myths about female masturbation and the hymen, and use analogies to explain sexual maturity, but also keep in mind the social context of this workshop. From the right time to get married, pregnancy before marriage, the concept of virginity, safe sex and means of contraception, our workshop is as comprehensive as can be. The boys are then shown sanitary napkins used during menstruation, and the conversation moves from this to contraception and questions about HIV and abortion.

Our last activity before lunch is condom training for both the boys and girls. The visually impaired participants shake and touch the condom packet, wondering what it is. We use bananas to practice wearing a condom, and Dr Asif and Dr Neha answer some more questions about safe sex.